TD’S OWN OPINION: A human narcissist can woo, charm, mesmerize to draw us in. But then when things don’t go to their liking, they change and get controlling, give the silent treatment, even become toxic, angry, or abusive to maintain full power. But if we stand up for ourselves, they accuse us of “triggering” them (meaning blame-shifting over onto us).

A Christian group with a narcissist manipulative spirit is a “cult” (not meaning a Jim Jones kind, necessarily but still dark) — same double-tongued, split personality, fault-finding, in-denial type of fruit.  USA  one Example:”They left because THEY were OFFENDED, UNSUBMITTED, COMPLAINERS, HAVE BAGGAGE” (In Denial: NOT because we disrespected them, biased against them, savagely betrayed them, rumored and undermined …yet never once properly “respectfully” Christ like “related’ and/or privately, Galatians 6:1 humbly “Bible” confronted them!)

 

PART 2 RELATIONSHIP RESPECT FAST 

Christian Narcissism, Human Ego, the Cult Spirit

In the Garden, Genesis 3:

“But, GOD… that woman YOU gave me.. It was SHE who gave me that piece of fruit!”**

** First Human Adam the First manipulative, duck and avoid Ego

Christian Narcissism in Human Persons, and in Groups

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Spotting & Resisting Narcissism in Christian Life & Ministry

A Prophetic Teaching & Deliverance Guide

 Introduction: Ancient Spirit — Modern Word

Many believers today see the word narcissism in psychology books but don’t realize the Bible describes it clearly — pride, self-idolatry, blame-shifting, flattery, and domination.

Jesus warned us:

“Ye shall know them by their fruits.” (Matthew 7:16)

Paul warned:

“In the last days… men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud…” (2 Timothy 3:1–2)

This is not just “mental health” — it is often a spiritual stronghold that enslaves marriages, ministries, families, and whole fellowships.

What is Narcissism? (Simple Definition)

Narcissism is a form of hidden pride and self-worship: It reveals a big clueless voice as as perceptive  blind spot in the person

• It demands admiration.

• It manipulates or shames to get control.

• It blames others but won’t repent.

• It charms outsiders but abuses insiders.

• It has no fear of God and little compassion for others.

 Where You’ll See It

1. In Individuals:

• Blames everyone else for problems.

• Uses charm or tears to avoid accountability.

• Feels “special” and entitled to be above correction.

2. In Leaders:

• Surrounds themselves with yes-men.

• Silences healthy dissent.

• Takes credit for team work.

• Preaches self-serving sermons.

• Uses the pulpit to push personal grudges.

2 In Ministries:

• Demands loyalty to man above loyalty to Christ.

• Idolizes “personality cult” over Scripture.

• Covers abuse or financial misconduct.

 Biblical Examples of Narcissistic Traits

Spotting & Resisting Narcissism in Christian Life & Ministry

A Prophetic Teaching & Deliverance Guide

 Introduction: Ancient Spirit — Modern Word

Many believers today see the word narcissism in psychology books but don’t realize the Bible describes it clearly — pride, self-idolatry, blame-shifting, flattery, and domination.

Jesus warned us:

“Ye shall know them by their fruits.” (Matthew 7:16)

Paul warned:

“In the last days… men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud…” (2 Timothy 3:1–2)

This is not just “mental health” — it is often a spiritual stronghold that enslaves marriages, ministries, families, and whole fellowships.

What is Narcissism? (Simple Definition)

Narcissism is a form of hidden pride and self-worship:

• It demands admiration.

• It manipulates or shames to get control.

• It blames others but won’t repent.

• It charms outsiders but abuses insiders.

• It has no fear of God and little compassion for others.

 Where You’ll See It

++ In Individuals:

• Blames everyone else for problems.

• Uses charm or tears to avoid accountability.

• Feels “special” and entitled to be above correction.

++ In Leaders:

• Surrounds themselves with yes-men.

• Silences healthy dissent.

• Takes credit for team work.

• Preaches self-serving sermons.

• Uses the pulpit to push personal grudges.

++ In Ministries:

• Demands loyalty to man above loyalty to Christ.

• Idolizes “personality cult” over Scripture.

• Covers abuse or financial misconduct.

GROUPS:

Christian Narcissism as a Cult Spirit in Ministry: A Warning and Call to Repentance

In many Christian ministries and businesses today, a subtle but dangerous spirit often goes unnoticed — narcissism. This spirit mimics the control, manipulation, and fear tactics of cults but usually operates on a personal or small-group level. It targets spouses, family members, staff, or close followers, seeking to elevate the self above Christ and manipulate others for selfish gain.

Understanding narcissism as a mini-cult spirit is vital for leaders who must guard themselves, their ministries, and their churches against this creeping poison.

What Is Narcissism in Ministry?

Narcissism is a spirit that demands admiration, obedience, and control. It isolates, manipulates, and punishes dissenters. Unlike a full-blown cult spirit, which controls large groups, narcissism often focuses on 1-2 people at a time — such as a spouse, staff member, or close follower.

However, narcissistic leaders can create entire ministry cultures revolving around their image and power.

Biblical insight:
“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” — James 3:16 (KJV)

How Narcissism in a Personality Mirrors A Group Cult Spirit

Definition, Discernment, Rebuke

1.  Ego — Definition and Danger

Ego in this context is an inflated sense of self-importance, entitlement to influence, and unwillingness to humble oneself before God or others.

In leaders, ego says:

• “I deserve honor, platform, and deference.”

• “I should not have to answer to lesser people.”

• “My gifting and authority excuse my flaws.”

• “Criticism of me is an attack on God’s anointed.”

Ego is rooted in pride (Job 41), the very spirit that God opposes:

“God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.”
— James 4:6 KJV

“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who… made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant.”
— Philippians 2:5-7 KJV

POINT: The Isaiah 58 fast confronts ego directly—it requires breaking prideful yokes, humbling oneself, and serving the least of these.

2 . Narcissism — Definition and Danger

Narcissism is a deeper pattern of self-idolatry, where a person:

• views others mainly in terms of how they can benefit them

• craves admiration and power, yet lacks empathy and accountability

• is hypersensitive to critique, but insensitive to the pain they cause

• operates through manipulation, charm, intimidation, and self-exaltation

Christian narcissism in leaders can look like:

• demanding titles, loyalty, and public praise

• promoting their brand over Christ’s Body

• marginalizing women and “lesser” people

• covering for favored men while scapegoating women or vulnerable individuals

• responding to challenges with public shame, withdrawal of affection, or false accusations

God’s Word rebukes this spirit:
“For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers… highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God.”
— 2 Timothy 3:2, 4 KJV

“By humility and the fear of the Lord are riches, and honour, and life.”
— Proverbs 22:4 KJV

Isaiah 58 is a complete opposite spirit to narcissism:
It calls leaders to loose bonds of wickedness, undo burdens, deal bread to the hungry, cover the naked, and not hide from their own flesh.

3. Training Points for Discernment & Repentance

Ministers, test yourselves:

• Do I crave admiration more than I seek to serve?

• Do I avoid accountability and circle only with loyal admirers?

• Do I downplay or excuse male sin while scrutinizing or silencing women?

• Do I view myself as “above” the need to repent for bias or controlling behavior?

• Do I cover for fellow “Boys’ Club” members instead of defending the oppressed?

1. If yes—then you are in danger of being ruled by ego and narcissism, not by the Spirit of the Lord.
2. If yes—you are opposing the Isaiah 58 fast and grieving the Holy Spirit.

4.  Prophetic Rebuke

“Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For ye… omit the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith.”
— Matthew 23:23 KJV

I say to today’s ego-driven ministry leaders:
You have built your own thrones and called them pulpits. You have honored each other and shamed the broken. You have covered your brothers’ sins while wounding your sisters in Christ. You have neglected the Isaiah 58 fast—justice, compassion, humility—and chosen instead the garments of pride and domination. The Lord will not bless this. Repent, lest your lampstand be removed.

5.  Closing Prayer of Repentance

Lord Jesus Christ,
I humble myself under Your mighty hand.
Forgive me for pride, ego, and any spirit of narcissism.
Forgive me for excusing or participating in “The Boys’ Club,”
for ignoring the cries of the Hannahs and the least of these.

Cleanse me from the sin of being a respecter of persons.
Break the yoke of patriarchy and spiritual pride off my life.
Give me the mind of Christ—the servant heart,
the courage to correct injustice,
the grace to empower both sons and daughters.

Restore true Isaiah 58 fasting to my ministry,
that Your light may break forth and Your glory be seen in Your Church.

In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Narcissism as a Mini-Cult Spirit

Training & Warning for Leaders and the Church Today

1. How Narcissism Mirrors a Cult Spirit

Sister T defines it :

“A cult has a magnet persona at the top and culls and woos the people to do their bidding, live in fear and tolerate control. Narcissism does the same, except it focuses on 1-2 at a time (spouse, girlfriend, family, big ministry follower, influencer).”

Both Cult Spirit and Narcissism:
= Center on self-worship — the leader/person must be admired, obeyed, and served.+

=Use control and manipulation to dominate others.
= Breed fear of displeasing them — walking on eggshells.
= Punish dissent, reward blind loyalty.
= Isolate targets from others to control the narrative.

Difference:

• Cult Spirit: Large scale — whole church, fellowship, online following, nation.

• Narcissism: Often relational — targets 1-2 individuals at a time (family, marriage, staff, disciple).

• But narcissistic leaders can scale to create entire cult cultures (as in some mega ministries or controlling networks).

2. Biblical Examples

Absalom — 2 Samuel 15:1-6 KJV

• Stole the hearts of the people.

• Created a personal following by flattering and undermining others.

• “If only I were king…” — manipulating for position and control.

Diotrephes — 3 John 9-10 KJV

“Diotrephes, who loveth to have the preeminence among them, receiveth us not.”

• Would not receive true apostles.

• Cast out anyone who opposed him.

• Loved power and position.

Modern Ministries:

• Celebrity apostles or prophets who surround themselves with yes-men and marginalize dissenters.

• Charismatic preachers who seduce female followers while demanding silence.

• Business or media influencers who woo audiences while secretly abusing those closest to them.

3.  Key Narcissist/Cult Spirit Tactics